I've had cancer and my wife now wants me out of her life and house

We have been married for 15 years. I am 58, she is 53.

I was diagnosed with lung cancer even though I’ve never smoked. Treatment was successful but affected my energy levels, and, as a result, our sex life.

We live in what was her house but I have contributed hugely and worked to make it a lovely home. I cannot believe she now wants to throw everything away.

She is being argumentative and irritating. I think it is her way of getting me to want out. All I want is to be together.

DEIDRE SAYS: Having a life-threatening illness can affect the sufferer and those around them deeply and in unexpected ways.

Maybe the realisation of how easily she could have lost you scared her so much that she is defensively denying her love for you.

Or maybe your marriage wasn’t as strong as you thought. Tell your wife you need to talk honestly, and you can both find support through Macmillan (macmillan.org.uk, 0808 808 0000).


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