I’m dating five dream women and I don’t know how to pick one to settle down with

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Q. I can't believe I am writing this as it is so embarrassing.

I've been seeing a bloke for a couple of months and so far I've avoided doing number twos in front of him. But it is getting impossible!

He's sleeping over more and more and I don't know what to do. My mates just say I should embrace it, smells and all, but I am WAY too shy. But I can't keep running off to the local McDonald’s or pub (especially now they are closing at 10pm).

Help, I don't want to dump him but I’m finding it all so awkward.

A. You need to listen to my podcast Couples Quarantine, Episode 2, Bathroom Dilemmas…

My husband and I dedicate an entire episode to this very topic (unfortunately for our audience). 

Essentially, you're going to have to come to terms with the reality that if the relationship is getting more serious, you have to accept each other warts and all. 

Going to the loo is a fact of life, plain and simple.

You are not a plastic Barbie doll and I highly doubt he is Zac Efron, so the time is upon you, I'm afraid.

Run a tap, double flush, crack a window, whatever you need, but you're going to have to do it sooner or later!

Q. I never thought I’d be the type to settle down, I’ve always been a serial dater.

That was all fine and good at first, but now it’s landed me in a tricky situation.

Basically, I’ve been dating five women and I can’t choose between them.

They all have things about them I like, I think they’d all make great partners… but obviously I need to narrow it down.

They don’t look the same, all do different jobs and have totally different looks.

How can I pick between five dream women? Or do I even have to? I’m finding it so hard to know what to do, please can you help.

A. This could be one of two things… either you simply haven't met the right person for you or you have difficulty committing to relationships long term. Because when you’ve met the right person, you just know.

If you think it's the former, then you are making the right decision taking your time.

Try to take a step back and objectively ask yourself what the reason is – is it them? Or is it you?

If you think it's the latter, then you might need to speak to a professional psychologist (which, shockingly, I am not).

It's really common for people to have trouble committing due to things that have happened in their life. This can be something as simple as your parents divorcing, or even just having a bad experience with an ex.

Try to take a step back and objectively ask yourself what the reason is – is it them? Or is it you?

Whatever the answer is, you will figure it out. Good luck!

Read Chloe's previous advice, including help for someone who's bloke was jealous of their sex toy, here.

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