A family who turned the tree where their daughter killed herself into a 'symbol of beauty' have been hit with a fresh tragedy after their son also took his own life.
Devastated mum Tracey Beadle shared the sad news with Mirror.co.uk that son Dyllon, 21, was found dead earlier this month at his home in Manchester – just two months before the anniversary of his younger sister Quinn's suicide.
"Our beautiful son Dyllon decided that this world was just too cruel for him," said Tracey.
"He took the awful decision to take his own life just as his little sister Quinn did in December. He was haunted by her death and couldn't live without her. They are together again and that is some comfort.
"I think I always knew Dyllon would do this because I knew he couldn't bear to be without her, but I hoped he could have held on a bit longer.
"This world is a darker place without them. Our hearts are broken."
Quinn was just 17 when she hanged herself at the end of her street – just yards from her front door on December 9, 2018.
The following morning the family laid flowers at the tree where Quinn was found and within hours the wasteland area had been turned into a sea of colour with floral tributes from friends and complete strangers.
Speaking back in July Tracey said: "At first all we wanted to do was cut that tree down, burn it, and never set eyes on it again; However the day after she took her own life, myself my husband David and our son Dyllon went to the florist and bought the most beautiful flowers and tied them to the tree.
"That tree was the last thing to have felt our daughters touch, the last thing that she saw.
"We didn't want it to be this awful place that we didn't want to look at again.
"We wanted to reclaim the tree and make it something beautiful. A space that everyone can use that can provide a sanctuary for people."
From the outpouring of love that followed Quinn's Garden was born – a place of reflection and sanctuary for anybody who needs it.
Mum Tracey, 39, said that following his sister's death, Dyllon returned to Manchester bringing with him a branch from the tree as he 'felt some kind of connection to it'.
He had taken a year out from university and was working in a cocktail bar which he loved at the time of his death.
He would text his mum and dad, David, daily and they would visit him in Manchester.
After their daughter's death Tracey and David set up the charity Quinn's Retreat to help other families who are going through a similar experience get some respite.
You can donate to Quinn's Retreat in memory of Dyllon and Quinn here .
Dyllon was a leading force in setting up Quinn's Retreat and was a proud trustee.
They last saw Dyllon two weeks before he died when he came home to Shildon, County Durham for a fundraising event for the charity.
"We had such a good night," said Tracey.
"He was up on the stage dancing. He was buying everyone Jagerbombs. He even got his gran to have three Jagerbombs!
“He was on top form, he really was. There were no obvious signs. He was as normal as could be expected, given what he was going through."
But just days later tragedy struck.
Tracey said: "The night before Dyllon died his housemates said they were all dancing around the front room.
"They went to bed about midnight and Dyllon sent me a text.
"He must have seen something on Facebook about Watership Down because he asked me if I could post the book down to him because he wanted to read it again. I didn't see the text because I was asleep and so replied the next morning but he was already dead by then.
"One of his friends heard what they thought was the tumble dryer door closing at about 1am but now they realise it was the backdoor opening and closing.
“The next morning his friend came downstairs and noticed Dyllon wasn’t in his bedroom and went outside and found him on the floor.
"His friend called an ambulance but he had already been dead for some time."
Tracey and David were both at work when they got the heartbreaking news.
“We didn’t find out until about 3.30pm. The police in Manchester phoned our local police and they came to our house and one of our neighbours had told them where David worked. They went to his work and told him and then they brought him to where I worked and told me.
“It was just…when I saw David come in I just knew. He was so distressed I just knew.
“He just said ‘it’s Dyllon’ and we held each other.
“We need to do something to stop this happening to other families."
The family have faced further heartache because they have been unable to bury Dyllon because of a backlog with post mortem examinations.
“It’s difficult knowing he’s in Manchester and we’re here," said Tracey.
"We want to celebrate his life but we can’t plan anything at the moment. Everything’s in limbo.
“It’s really hard. It adds to our grief because you want to feel like you’re doing something and we can’t do that. We've been told it could be today and the funeral will hopefully be on November 1.
“Quinn was cremated and Dyllon will also be cremated.
"We haven’t scattered Quinn’s ashes yet because we haven’t felt ready.
"We’ll now scatter them together.
"Dyllon was actually going to scatter Quinn’s ashes across Europe in the summer and myself and Dave were going to meet them in a few places."
The family are planning a Humanist ceremony for Dyllon and are looking at the possibility of renaming the charity to Quinn and Dyllon’s Retreat.
Tracey said: "People have been bringing flowers and candles to Quinn’s Garden for Dyllon. The charity will now be in memory of both of them.
“Dyllon was a very unique person. He was a bit of Goth and his funeral will reflect that. He was quite obsessed with death.
"He had a Pinterest board for his 'living funeral' in his first year at uni.
"He was going to lay in a coffin on a table and everyone was going to mourn him so he could see what his funeral would be like.
“When he was 14 he said to his best friend that if he died before her she had to come to his funeral dressed as the Grim Reaper. He went on and on until she promised him she would, so there will be a Grim Reaper at his funeral.
“It’s the way he would have wanted it. We’re going to have some little Pop Art badges made with his face on for people to take home."
Brave Dyllon read out a poem he wrote at his sister's funeral and it's understood that this same poem will be read again at his ceremony.
Humanist Susan Walker said: "When he read it out, so recently, no one could fail to be moved by his pain."
Reflecting on how they are coping, brave Tracey admits: "We’re taking every hour as it comes.
“We’ve got some brilliant family and friends around us helping us so much to get through it.
“We’ve got the dogs so we have to get up every morning and walk them. We go down to Quinn’s Garden and remember both our children.
“Dyllon was fiercely intelligent. It was scary how much he knew. He was like an Encyclopedia. He was so kind and worried about everything and everyone.
“We went to see Dyllon the day after he died. You’re only allowed to go once and you’re only allowed half an hour.
“The first thing I did was ruffle up his hair because they had brushed it straight back and he always used lots of hair spray to make it all stick up so the first thing I did was ruffle up his hair.
“That’s how I remember him.
“Then we chatted with him. His best friend Kate was with us and my dad and his partner Pat was there as well.
“I said to him ‘I hope you’re together again now…don’t argue with her too much’.
"The first thing Quinn would have said is ‘what the hell are you doing here?’. Then she’d be saying ‘they cried more when I died’. He would be like ‘no, I was the favourite. They’d definitely be crying more now’.
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