Navigating dating apps can be such a chore – with the swiping, the chatting, the judging.
Finding love shouldn’t be so taxing.
So one new matchmaking app has got rid of all those components.
Venchur hopes to encourage people to have dates, not just virtual conversations. It’s a blind date app that is to be used exclusively to secure dates. A Yellow Pages for dating, if you will.
Instead of traditional apps, where you’re left wondering which person in a group pic lineup is the user, Venchur has drawn avatars to represent the person.
If there’s one person you like the look of, you can try to match with them and send a potential location to meet.
The match can then decide to accept or reject your offer.
If they accept, then bish bash bosh, you have a date – just decide the time and place.
How will they know who I am, we hear you ask?
Don’t worry, there is a description box for that (also handy if you want to check their vibe out from afar).
Yes, it sounds a bit wild but creator Nick Poninski says this app is to find dates, not matches.
He says that he and his team saw a gap in the market and once they found that people spend an average of 80 minutes a day to get four dates, swung into action.
Nick tells Metro.co.uk: ‘We wanted to create an app which cut through all the noise and enabled actual real-life dating.
‘Basically, traditional dating apps don’t work for everyone. The main issue with them is that they are time-consuming with no guarantees.
‘So you could be online for hours and still not get any dates.’
Wanting to see what a potential date looks like is human curiosity of course, and some would say it’s needed to establish sexual chemistry.
Nick, however, says, apps introduce more problems by allowing pictures due to catfishing, editing and so on.
‘We agree that how someone looks is definitely an essential part of developing sexual chemistry, but dating apps don’t always capture this accurately,’ he explains.
‘Lots of different factors change how someone looks in pictures so although a photo is useful it isn’t a perfect alternative to meeting in person.
‘Equally, the chemistry which determines how easily a person interacts with someone can never be replicated in a dating app, where you dismiss someone based off two or three seconds of judging their photos (which probably don’t accurately reflect how they look in person).’
We had to ask Nick the obvious question – how do you know you’re not going to match with a creep?
He said: ‘Serial killers aren’t social misfits you can spot by looking at them, despite what movies would have you believe.
‘For instance, the UK’s most prolific serial killer, Dr. Harold Shipman, looked like a normal person and was in a position of trust for his entire adult life.
‘Regardless, if a serial killer intended to use a dating app to find targets they can use any of the other existing apps out there.’
He stresses that Venchur is more about experimentation and just getting out there.
‘We hope that people will embrace this new way of dating, even if it’s just to schedule five 15-minute dates back-to-back on a Sunday afternoon,’ he adds.
‘We feel it’s likely that most dates won’t work out. But that’s true in real life too so you’re not actually losing anything really.
‘You’ll actually gain time as you won’t be filtering through endless profiles and messages. Our app is for dates, not matches.’
This app might be one for the braver among us.
Those interested in the app can download it in April.
Dating terms and trends, defined
Blue-stalling: When two people are dating and acting like a couple, but one person in the partnership states they’re unready for any sort of label or commitment (despite acting in a different manner).
Breadcrumbing: Leaving ‘breadcrumbs’ of interest – random noncommittal messages and notifications that seem to lead on forever, but don’t actually end up taking you anywhere worthwhile Breadcrumbing is all about piquing someone’s interest without the payoff of a date or a relationship.
Caspering: Being a friendly ghost – meaning yes, you ghost, but you offer an explanation beforehand. Caspering is all about being a nice human being with common decency. A novel idea.
Catfish: Someone who uses a fake identity to lure dates online.
Clearing: Clearing season happens in January. It’s when we’re so miserable thanks to Christmas being over, the cold weather, and general seasonal dreariness, that we will hook up with anyone just so we don’t feel completely unattractive. You might bang an ex, or give that creepy guy who you don’t really fancy a chance, or put up with truly awful sex just so you can feel human touch. It’s a tough time. Stay strong.
Cloutlighting: Cloutlighting is the combo of gaslighting and chasing social media clout. Someone will bait the person they’re dating on camera with the intention of getting them upset or angry, or making them look stupid, then share the video for everyone to laugh at.
Cockfishing: Also known as catcocking. When someone sending dick pics uses photo editing software or other methods to change the look of their penis, usually making it look bigger than it really is.
Cuffing season: The chilly autumn and winter months when you are struck by a desire to be coupled up, or cuffed.
Firedooring: Being firedoored is when the access is entirely on one side, so you’re always waiting for them to call or text and your efforts are shot down.
Fishing: When someone will send out messages to a bunch of people to see who’d be interested in hooking up, wait to see who responds, then take their pick of who they want to get with. It’s called fishing because the fisher loads up on bait, waits for one fish to bite, then ignores all the others.
Flashpanner: Someone who’s addicted to that warm, fuzzy, and exciting start bit of a relationship, but can’t handle the hard bits that might come after – such as having to make a firm commitment, or meeting their parents, or posting an Instagram photo with them captioned as ‘this one’.
Freckling: Freckling is when someone pops into your dating life when the weather’s nice… and then vanishes once it’s a little chillier.
Gatsbying: To post a video, picture or selfie to public social media purely for a love interest to see it.
Ghosting: Cutting off all communication without explanation.
Grande-ing: Being grateful, rather than resentful, for your exes, just like Ariana Grande.
Hatfishing: When someone who looks better when wearing a hat has pics on their dating profile that exclusively show them wearing hats.
Kittenfishing: Using images that are of you, but are flattering to a point that it might be deceptive. So using really old or heavily edited photos, for example. Kittenfishes can also wildly exaggerate their height, age, interests, or accomplishments.
Lovebombing: Showering someone with attention, gifts, gestures of affection, and promises for your future relationship, only to distract them from your not-so-great bits. In extreme cases this can form the basis for an abusive relationship.
Microcheating: Cheating without physically crossing the line. So stuff like emotional cheating, sexting, confiding in someone other than your partner, that sort of thing.
Mountaineering: Reaching for people who might be out of your league, or reaching for the absolute top of the mountain.
Obligaswiping: The act of endlessly swiping on dating apps and flirt-chatting away with no legitimate intention of meeting up, so you can tell yourself you’re doing *something* to put yourself out there.
Orbiting: The act of watching someone’s Instagram stories or liking their tweets or generally staying in their ‘orbit’ after a breakup.
Paperclipping: When someone sporadically pops up to remind you of their existence, to prevent you from ever fully moving on.
Preating: Pre-cheating – laying the groundwork and putting out feelers for cheating, by sending flirty messages or getting closer to a work crush.
Prowling: Going hot and cold when it comes to expressing romantic interest.
R-bombing: Not responding to your messages but reading them all, so you see the ‘delivered’ and ‘read’ signs and feel like throwing your phone across the room.
Scroogeing: Dumping someone right before Christmas so you don’t have to buy them a present.
Shadowing: Posing with a hot friend in all your dating app photos, knowing people will assume you’re the attractive one and will be too polite to ask.
Shaveducking: Feeling deeply confused over whether you’re really attracted to a person or if they just have great facial hair.
Sneating:When you go on dates just for a free meal.
Stashing: The act of hiding someone you’re dating from your friends, family, and social media.
Submarineing: When someone ghosts, then suddenly returns and acts like nothing happened.
V-lationshipping:When someone you used to date reappears just around Valentine’s Day, usually out of loneliness and desperation.
You-turning: Falling head over heels for someone, only to suddenly change your mind and dip.
Zombieing: Ghosting then returning from the dead. Different from submarineing because at least a zombie will acknowledge their distance.
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