I haven't had sex since giving birth and now my husband's cheating on me

DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVEN’T let my husband come near me since the traumatic birth of my baby ten months ago.

I had to have surgery and was in intensive care for two days. It was terrifying.

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I am 36 and my husband is 38. We have been married for 11 years and have another two children aged eight and six.

My husband has been behaving out of character for him lately.

I was suspicious so I checked his phone and discovered he has been on lots of different sites looking for local girls to sleep with.

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He’s also watching porn.

I am hurt and angry, but I haven’t said anything yet as I know I shouldn’t have looked at his phone.

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DEIDRE SAYS: It’s wrong to snoop on his phone, but what he is doing is worse, so talk to him about it.

You had a difficult birth and he may be afraid of you getting pregnant again.

My support pack called Sex Problems After A Baby may help you.

And contact the Birth Trauma Association who support women like you (birthtraumaassociation.org.uk, 01264 860380).

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