DEAR DEIDRE: I HAD an older lover when I was just out of my teens who lied about his age to get into my pants.
He was a sex god, it was amazing, and I’m tempted now he wants us to meet again.
When I first knew him he told me he was 30. I had an evening job in the kitchen at our local pub and he was behind the bar.
He set about seducing me and turned my head with his flattery and suggestive comments.
When he got me into bed the sex was mind-blowingly good.
I was young and inexperienced but constantly wanting sex. I would try anything and he was happy to oblige. I then found out he had a partner.
She had gone through his phone and she messaged me to say he’d cheated on her with me and countless other people.
Our relationship had lasted six months but when I found out he’d cheated — and he’d lied to me because he was actually 37 — I dumped him. I’ve thought about him often though, because he was magic in bed.
I went out with other guys but they seemed so immature in comparison, and sex was often over really quickly.
I landed a great job six months ago in the head office of a major supermarket and that’s how I met my current boyfriend.
He’s 31 and the sort of guy you’re happy to take home to mum and dad — polite, intelligent — but he’s average-looking and a bit dull in the sack.
He looks after me though and I love him.
Last week I got a private message from my “sex-god” ex. He was asking how I am and what I’ve been doing and whether I still remember him.
How could I forget?
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He said he has two children now but would end things with his long-term partner if we could have another shot at what we had. I want to try but I do have my boyfriend to think about. I need to think about the lies my ex has told me in the past too. Has he changed?
I have a sexual connection with him that I have never had with anyone else and he took the trouble to find me. He must feel the same about me, right?
I know from our naughty texts that we are desperate to jump back into bed. Should I do it?
DEIDRE SAYS: No. You know in your heart that this guy is just out for all he can get and you’ll end up in a no-strings, dead-end relationship.
You’d hurt your boyfriend in the process too. Does he deserve that? Do your ex’s children and partner deserve the pain they will suffer?
Tell your ex that casual relationships aren’t for you and block him so he gets a clear message.
If the sex isn’t so great with your boyfriend, take responsibility for your sexual pleasure. Plan a romantic evening, show him where to put his hands and how to make you feel really good. My e-leaflet on How To Thrill A Woman In Bed can help.
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