A mum-of-two told her boyfriend he’d have to pay her to be a stay-at-home mother.
She demanded wages of $10,000 (£7,600) a month to care for the kids while he went off to work.
Without this lump sum, she worried she’d lose her independence by quitting her job.
On Reddit, the lass wrote: “My boyfriend and I have two kids and have been together for a number of years, I have always worked apart from when on maternity leave.
“We are considering a third and talking about what that would mean as the others are well out of the baby/toddler stage
“He makes five times what I do and we could easily afford for me not to work but I don't want to lose the independence, especially as we aren't married.”
The anonymous lass added: “I know several different women who were stay-at-home mothers for years who then struggled to survive when their relationships ended because they were blindsided and didn't have money or jobs to fall back on.”
She also argued you’re “basically entitled to nothing” if you split up from a man you’re not married too.
So to ensure she’d stay afloat, she demanded a £7,600 as an ongoing monthly allowance.
This didn’t go down well with her husband, who accused her of not trusting him.
The Redditor explained: “He said I'm being ridiculous and he's not even going to entertain the thought of rewarding my distrust, so I said fine if baby happens I return to work after maternity leave like before.”
The mum asked if she was being an “a***hole” to demand the payment – and responders were mostly on her side.
A commenter reassured: “Not the a***hole. Since you're not married which would give you equal right to joint assets, you have to think a little differently than a married woman in a similar situation would.
“Him asking to give up your means of income without the security of being married puts you in a very potentially vulnerable spot.
“And sure, it could all turn out fine… but it could also turn out in disaster for you if you and he ever split up, and you would have very little recourse.”
Another agreed: “Look out for your future and make sure you don't back down if he tries to pressure you more.”
And a third asked: “So he doesn’t believe in marriage but wants a housewife?”
Others had suggestions on how to deal with the situation without causing any arguments.
A Redditor advised: “Here’s an idea: Boyfriend starts a trust that will take effect either when you break up or he dies. The children are the beneficiaries of the trust and you are trustee.
“A good lawyer probably could revise this idea so it works for you and the kids. Fund it with your $10k and then BF contributes what he might otherwise pay in child support.
“Anyway. Talk to a lawyer who can give you ideas about how to take care of you and the kids.”
And another suggested: “Maybe a compromise: if he wants you to stay at home without some pay then he should think more on marriage.”
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