I’m a 45-year-old widow with sons who are 20 and 23, but they still live at home.
My husband died of cancer two years ago and I met this guy online a few months ago. He’s 46.
We live far apart and I was distracted because my mum had been ill. He was lonely and flattered when a younger woman came on to him.
I found a text from her. He is guilt-ridden and remorseful and has ended his fling.
He says he loves me and we want to be together but my kids will have none of it.
They won’t live at home for ever but I am afraid of losing them. Is this not my life to lead and my chance to take? Should I forfeit my happiness for my sons?
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DEIDRE SAYS: They probably feel they are in a way defending their dad, as well as worrying about you, but tell them you are an adult and make your own choices. They don’t have to like your partner but should be civil.
Don’t look for their permission – they should accept you don’t need it.
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