{"id":188229,"date":"2023-10-26T08:39:27","date_gmt":"2023-10-26T08:39:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/newsneednews.com\/?p=188229"},"modified":"2023-10-26T08:39:27","modified_gmt":"2023-10-26T08:39:27","slug":"has-your-partner-cheated-6-questions-to-ask-if-youre-thinking-of-giving-them-a-second-chance-the-sun","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/newsneednews.com\/fashion\/has-your-partner-cheated-6-questions-to-ask-if-youre-thinking-of-giving-them-a-second-chance-the-sun\/","title":{"rendered":"Has your partner cheated? 6 questions to ask if you're thinking of giving them a second chance | The Sun"},"content":{"rendered":"

AN affair can feel like the ultimate betrayal in a relationship – but if your partner has cheated, does it always have to mean it's over? <\/strong><\/p>\n

For many, an illicit affair would signal the end – but it isn't always that straightforward. <\/p>\n

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In fact, depending on the factors surrounding the infidelity, a high number of experts believe a relationship can be successfully worked on.<\/p>\n

A study by relationship support service Relate showed that whilst only 33 per cent of the general public thought a relationship could survive an affair, 94 per cent of Relate counsellors believed it could not only survive, but even thrive.<\/p>\n

How cheating can impact a relationship<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Sarah Woodward, the divorce coach for women, says: "When a person cheats on their partner it\u2019s often not because there\u2019s something lacking in their relationship, it\u2019s more to do with issues they\u2019re facing about themselves such as a lack of self-esteem. <\/p>\n

"For the partner who\u2019s been betrayed, it can have a serious impact on their emotional wellbeing, and they can suffer from anxiety, stress, and depression. <\/p>\n

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"They can feel inadequate with feelings of low self-esteem and self-worth, continually asking themselves why they weren\u2019t enough. <\/p>\n

"They may find it difficult to trust again in either their current relationship or future relationships and they will put up barriers to stop themselves getting hurt again.<\/p>\n

"It\u2019s likely that everyone around you will have an opinion on what you should do after you discover your partner is having an affair and whether you should give them a second chance. <\/p>\n

"However, there is no right or wrong answer, it\u2019s what\u2019s right for you and your future.<\/p>\n

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"Consider exploring marriage counselling where an expert can provide a safe space for both of you to explore how you feel, understand what led to the affair, and how you can move forward either together or apart."<\/p>\n

If you're willing to engage, Sarah recommends trying to use open questions to start a dialogue instead of closed questions that elicit a 'yes' or 'no' response that won\u2019t get the conversation going. <\/p>\n

She also recommends avoiding using the question \u2018why\u2019 as this can result in the other person being defensive as they feel attacked which may not be conducive to a productive conversation. <\/p>\n

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6 questions to ask him if you\u2019re thinking of giving him a second chance<\/strong><\/h2>\n

How can I be sure the affair is over?<\/strong>\u00a0<\/h3>\n

Ultimately, you need the reassurance that the affair is over and that there will be no more contact, which isn\u2019t always straight forward if they\u2019re work colleagues, for example.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s much more difficult to move on if you know they will still be seeing each other every day so if that's the case, think about what needs to happen for you to feel comfortable.<\/p>\n

What feelings did you have for her then and now?<\/strong>\u00a0<\/h3>\n

It may influence your decision if you know it was just a one-off and meant nothing, compared to a full-blown love affair. <\/p>\n

That doesn\u2019t mean the betrayal is any less but will give you an indication of how likely it is that you can rebuild your relationship. <\/p>\n

If your partner is in love with the other person you may want to think again about giving him a second chance.<\/p>\n

Are you sorry?<\/strong>\u00a0<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s crucial that your partner acknowledges their mistake, shows genuine remorse, and apologises. <\/p>\n

They need to accept responsibility for their behaviour and not blame it on you. Are they acting as though they are sorry? <\/p>\n

Without this there is no hope for your relationship.<\/p>\n

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How can we get the trust back together?<\/strong>\u00a0<\/h3>\n

It will take work from both of you to rebuild your relationship and that involves being able to communicate openly and having difficult conversations. <\/p>\n

Knowing what your partner is prepared to do to rebuild the trust and your relationship will give you an indication of how committed they are to your future together. <\/p>\n

It will also allow you to decide whether you can and want to give him what he\u2019s asking for.<\/p>\n

What did she offer you that I didn't? <\/strong><\/h3>\n

Although this may be difficult to hear, if handled sensitively, this discussion can be a great basis to work out what needs to change in future to make your relationship stronger.<\/p>\n

It can also help you to agree on what your individual needs and expectations are for your relationship.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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What did you tell her about our relationship?<\/strong>\u00a0<\/h3>\n

It can feel like a double blow if your partner has been discussing your relationship, and what he wasn\u2019t happy about with her, rather than communicating it with you and giving you the opportunity to work on it together. <\/p>\n

Consider whether you\u2019re able to move past this.<\/p>\n

QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF<\/h3>\n

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Trust takes time to rebuild after a partner has cheated on you and it\u2019s not easy – but it can be done.<\/p>\n

Being able to communicate openly and honestly with each other will improve your chances of being able to rebuild your relationship. <\/p>\n

Here are some questions that you may want to ask yourself before you decide whether to give your partner a second chance..<\/p>\n